Practicing simple habits can make a world of a difference when trying to achieve your short term and long term goals. I believe that discipline is the key factor to success and if you discipline yourself enough to do these simple tasks they will become habits for your own benefit.
Here are some things that have made me a much happier and positive person.
1. Don't feed your negativity!
Negativity is in inevitable. We all have those moments of frustration and hopelessness but it's important to practice catching yourself in these moments. Sometimes acknowledgment is all we need to change our negative thoughts. Ask yourself, "Why am I upset?", "What is causing this frustration?" What can I do to make this a positive situation? Once you answer these questions, you will realize that whatever source is feeding your negativity, in the end doesn't even matter! I can't tell you the number of times I would get angry at the person driving slow in front of me. I would ruin my entire morning just because of someone else's actions and it's just NOT HEALTHY. The biggest reward is catching yourself in these moments and saying "It doesn't matter, snap out of it!" Focus your energy on positive things and you'll see how quickly your mood changes.
I firmly believe in the law of attraction and manifesting everything into your life. If you're not a believer or want to learn more about it, I highly recommend watching the documentary The Secret on Netflix. It explains everything you need to know and it's such an incredible source of enlightenment. I've watched it twice and it's truly transformed my mentality. As soon as I feel like the five-year-old in me is wanting to throw a tantrum, I make sure to remind myself of the teachings in that documentary and all the negative thoughts just flow away. Remember PRACTICE MAKES EXPERT ;)
2. Find ONE thing that makes you feel SAFE
Feeling safe is often something people look for in a significant other, family member or even just the roof over their head, but I think it's important to find an inanimate object instead of relying of something or someone because what happens when that person or house is gone? Exactly, you lose your sense of safeness because you've placed it in the hands of someone or something else. I often did this with my relationships and was constantly sad and disappointed because I CHOSE to give these people so much authority. No one should ever be in possession of your safety. It is yours and only yours.
What makes me feel safe is the sunrise. It's the only thing guaranteed everyday and that makes me feel safe. It makes me feel safe because I know that no matter how good or bad those hours are in between of the sun rising and setting, the sun will rise again giving you a fresh new start. I'm constantly pushing myself to achieve my goals in unrealistic amounts of time and I just set myself up for disaster because I'm in a constant race with myself. Knowing that the sun takes it's time everyday to rise and set is a reminder that no matter how hard i'm trying to achieve something, it will all unfold in due time.
Other things that can make you feel safe include meditating, going to a bookstore, listening to music (anywhere, not just your spotify playlist) and simply sitting outside. TRY IT!
3. Watch TED Talks
If you haven't heard of Ted talks you're in for a treat because there is about anything and everything discussed in these educational videos. From mental health, education, dating, and politics, TED talks are inspirational and timeless videos out to compel you to think differently and abundantly. We often just utilize tools given throughout our education in schools but fail to seek education elsewhere. It's important to continue educating yourself every single day especially if you've finished college or any level of education. Our minds are constantly being fueled by the world around us. Are your surroundings making you smarter or stronger? If not, take at least 20 minutes of your day to watch a TED talk of your choice. You won't regret it.
Here are some of my favorites:
- How to stop screwing yourself over- Mel Robbins HIGHLY RECOMMEND
- This is not your Practice life -AJ Leon HIGHLY RECOMMEND
- Trust Your Struggle -Zain Asher HIGHLY RECOMMEND
- Sell Your Crap, Pay Your Debt, Do what you love -Adam Baker
- Ending the Pursuit of Perfection -Iskra Lawrence
- What makes you Special? - Mariana Atencio